Different Standards on Clothing and Behavior
Controlling The Perception of Others
Reasons Your Appearances Is Important
- Your clothing can effect the actions and behavior, not the opinions, of you and (mostly) others.
- People will be more willing to take your seriously if you dress, and act, with decency, dignity, and self-respect.
- When people say that what you wear can effect your behavior, their use of the word behavior is their way of referring to how you carry yourself in public, your method of performance when doing tasks, and your amount of self-worth. But it does not refer to: who you are, your beliefs, your values, or your preferences. You will always have at least one preference at least one another person does not like.
- People are willing to let things get out of hand, even if you don't know any better, simply because of you appearance.
- People are less likely to look down on you because of your appearance.
- It is possible to control your appearance while maintain your personal stand points on certain issues. You can stay true to yourself and your beliefs without your appearance effecting them, you just have to find out how.
- Remember: People make assumptions about you because they can see you, but they cannot read your mind. Having an opposing opinion does not mean you can voice it in the way both you and other people want. It just means you must maintain two things: self-control and self-respect, when you do. You will probably feel weird, but it will get better that way after doing it for a while. Your opinion may (or may not) cause others to question you on it, but that is just how meeting new people can - sometimes has to - be.
- Make sure the clothing that fits your tastes is not indecent to others.
- Do not hold your opinions - or anything thing of any stress - in, otherwise you will drive yourself to criminal insanity. If you have an opinion, do not do the following:
- Use profanity
- Use indecently explict diction [word choice]
- Act in any way that draws negative attention
- Instead, do these things when expressing yourself
- Make eye contact, as long as necessary
- Be politely blunt when disregarding statements you hate
- Explain your point-of-view and the reason(s) behind it
How You Can Have Self-Control & Still Express Yourself
- Once you achieved the above, you can achieve the things/circumstances you want if you:
- ...know (and try to abide by) the conventional standards around you.
- ...can be bluntly and professionally assertive when having face-to-face conversations.
- ...do what you can. Don't try to do multiple things - only what gets the job done right. If you won't do right thing honestly and willingly, then it is better to do wrong.
- ...can show respect for those around you.
- ...express how you feel in a positive way - even if it seems useless.
- ...know how to get people to respect and listen to you - without angering them.
- ...treat others the way you would want them to treat you.
Natural Beauty & Attractiveness: Start With The Basics
Start As Early As Possible
Water Reduces Wrinkles
One thing people don't understand is that drinking water helps blood flow, raising sagging or sinking areas of the skin, reducing the number of wrinkles. My book will have examples for this, along with things above and below it, but this blog will give instructions before that.
Limit Fast Food & Fast Snack Consumption
Fast Food and similar food are not problems, but too much of either can be one. The oils and other ingredients in those foods gets filtered into our bodies through our kidneys. When they get into our pores, those oils and other ingredients can get clogged in them unless we drink water, which breaks them down.
Fruits, Vegetables, & (at least) 15 MinutesHealthier foods and exercise can help with inherited attractive features. Since it is too hot for even thirty minutes, fifteen seems like a reasonable amount of time in the sun. Doing this helps your blood (and the water in it) run more easily, reducing wrinkles and acne.
Learning Self-control & Positive Self-expression
The Importance of Self-control
Everyone has intentionally used profanity and showed vulgar behavior at some point, unless those problems were corrected beforehand or they are influenced by others who do. However, controlling yourself does not mean you have to let everyone walk over you. Gaining friends, or being left alone, can be done in many ways, whether directly or indirectly, using the right body language, along with tone of voice and acceptable diction when speaking. This blog will vaguely tell how to accomplish that, before my book is published, in the paragraphs below. In reference to them, follow them as well as you honestly can, not expected to.
Use of Tone of Voice and DictionIf you want to get your opinion out and get the result(s) you want, without getting in trouble, be aware of others' tone of voice and diction. You can use the same voice tone and diction as them to get treated the same way as them, but you might not like their opinions to what you say. In other words: Don't just scream profanity later when you can say stuff earlier, in a more acceptable tone, equally acceptable diction [vocabulary chosen, clarity of prenounciation, not the language spoken] and acceptable context with it. Doing so will allow you to seem more acceptable, though deep down you don't have to like others' comments on it. You can manipulate people into staying away from, or stop talking to, you by using what they say or mean against them, by using direct statements and examples that contradict what others are trying to
Use of Body Language & Facial ExpressionBody language can send messages with or without coinciding with someone's choice of clothing. Body language also includes facial expressions. You can mix body language and facial expressions with a good appearance to push away or befriend others in a more subtle way than obnoxious behavior. Facial expression is more subtle and effective than conspicuous indecency. Remember: All appropriate body language is acceptable when mixed with a good appearance and your choice of facial expressions. You can always verbally ask for the type of respect that is not demanded by your appearance, even angrily. In addition to all of what is previous stated, make eye contact (to impose respect and - if you prefer to - fear). One more tip: Even if they are not on or your music is not playing, do not have (a) headphone(s) in (one of) your ear(s) simply to keep people from approaching you.
Understand The World Around You: Becoming More Social
Understanding the world, and people, around you should not be hard. However, it may still result in you not having the friends you want, but you will get respect from others. But respect from them to you will probably mean they still isolate themselves from you. On the other hand, you may attract friends doing things you would least expect to - like the things they tease you about. In fact, you may get a date, or the attentions of someone you want to attract, because of those things. On top of that: asking questions you are afraid of being answered helps you understand the environment, though you might not always like the answers. Again: You can always verbally ask for a type of respect that is not demanded by your appearance. Another thing: Directly confronting people you admire is always better than drawing attention.
Respect and Consideration for Others
Always try to maintain decency and respect for others. By all avalible means, make sure you keep things between you and others as professional - even dull - as possible. You don't have to be willing to join in conversations, unless directly suggested to do so. If so, suggest a different topic if the current one does not suit you. Only get comfortable if you are allowed to, not before. You may never sacrifice the pleasure(s) you have enjoyed, but others will - subconsciously - appreciate your manners. You will not like some of those people because of who they are. One day, the favor will be returned. You can always verbally ask for a type of circumstance that is not demanded by your appearance. A few more things: 1) keep personal space between you and others, 2) respect others' belongings, 3) make sure your actions and words are not offensive to others.
Constructively Expressing Anger
When someone makes you angry, it is best to think about how they made a point. If someone asks you a question that you do not want to answer, sternly rebuffing them or facepalming yourself is a good option. You may even use what they have stated against them. You can always verbally ask for a type of respect and circumstance that is not demanded by your appearance, regardless of how others respond to what you say. Sometimes, outright ignoring them or giving them non-verbal signs to leave you alone will work. Acting in a way that causes people to feel bad maybe the only way to get them to listen to you. Outright demanding somethings or refusing to say anything, and explaining why you do such, maybe the only way to achieve what degree of respect you want. Refusing to do more than take up space unless satisfied is another alternative. If they are not reasonable-enough to stop teasing and ask why you are acting the way you are, tell them bluntly how you feel. Do not ask rhetorical or satirical [sarcastic] questions simply because they seem to be doing that to you. In the chance people ask for assistance, and you deny them that and they get something wrong, understand one thing: you could have helped them but didn't. Never complain about what you could have prevented. On things that you debate about, hate the person's standpoint, not the person themself. Never hate the debater nor the debate itself, but hate the other debater's method of debating. Undermining the intention of what someone means is a good way to get the results you want or be told what you want or need to hear.